Friday, December 21, 2012

Why Homeschool?

Why homeschool my little one (LO)?

This is such a loaded question and really not easy to answer.  But I am going to try because it gets asked A LOT :)   I participate in multiple homeschooling blogs and the first question that most people ask of homeschoolers is "why?"   Homeschooling is not the norm (although it has grown substantially over the last few decades), therefore people are going to question the decision.

So, here we go with my personal response to the "Why?" question :)

First of all, we need a little background information about myself.  I am a public school teacher.  Yes, you read that correctly.  I honestly DO believe in public schools.  I believe in what public school COULD be.   I also believe that our current model for public school is inherently flawed.   I believe that it needs serious revamping.    I actually do believe in the concept of standards, but I do not believe how they are implemented nationwide.  I believe some schools and some districts are doing things well . . . and others are definitely not.   I have written my whole Master's thesis on the problems of public school and on the basic fact that our congressmen do not have a good plan on fixing those problems (and, honestly, not much "will" to actually go through with changes).  I could go on for pages about public schools but this blog is about why we have chosen to homeschool.  And we have chosen to homeschool our own son.

Where did I get the idea of homeschooling my own son?  Honestly, I was frustrated.  Very frustrated with my own school, my own school district, and the students that I was teaching.   It was one 7th period class that I will never forget.  The first day of school I had to call security.   The first half of the year was a constant battle between myself and the students I was trying to teach.  One student was an obvious bully.  He was truly bullying another student in the class  It was horrible.  I tried and tried to get the bully out of the class.  I told the counselors, the parents, the administration.  Nothing happened.  Until, in October, the student threatened my life by holding up a pair of scissors and telling me to get away from him.  Another student literally got out of his chair and told the bully "If you threaten my teacher, you will be dealing with me."  I went down to my assistant principal that day, crying, and said "I will NOT return to that class unless you get that student out of my class.  I am not negotiating and waiting for the 'system' to do something.  I do not care that there is a process.  Get him out NOW!"   Finally, the administration did something!  They removed the student and he finished the course online.   But it shouldn't have taken that long.  I had been complaining since the first day of school about this student.  What if the student HAD attacked me or another student?  And the worst part of the situation was that it took away from the other students' ability to learn.  I could not effectively teach the rest of the students because I had to deal with behavior issues like that.  That is simply not fair.   And I am a good teacher.  And I live in a good school district.  And I work in a good school.   My school is rated one of the top in the nation.  Yet, there are problems.   Big problems.   

What I see every day are that the students at the top (i.e. straight As, IB, AP, advanced, honors, etc.) get great resources and praise from the school.  And the students at the bottom (i.e. ESOL, SPED, etc.) also get great resources and support from the school.  And then there are the children in the middle.  The "average" student does not get either.  They do not get praise for doing what they are supposed to do.  They do not get "extras".  They are just there.  I find it so sad.  I personally try to reach out the most to those students in the "middle".    I do not want my son to go to public school and be the "average".  BUT I also do not want to put undo pressure on my son to be "the best!"  That is also problematic.  There are so many students that are pushed into the higher level courses mainly because their parents want them to be there.  It's really not healthy.  The students are stressed beyond their capabilities and I have seen countless burn-outs (some with very serious psychological damage).   It's really not good all the pressure that is put on "average" students to always be "the best."   

Going along with that concept, one of the big reasons that I seriously started to look at homeschooling was when my school district decided that all elementary schools would have all-day kindergarten.   That means those little 5 and 6 year olds were leaving for school early in the morning and not getting home into way into the afternoon/evening.   I just honestly cannot fathom having my son in school that long everyday.  The children must come home exhausted and there is definitely not much family time left over.   It's great for a working parent because it's basically all day free daycare.  But I am also not a fan of the daycare concept.   I had a child so that I could be with my child.   I want to spend as much time with him as possible.  They are only little for so long and I want to cherish all that time with him.    And, yes, I do still work.  I live in a high cost of living area and we need my paychecks.  BUT I now work part-time, in the mornings, when my LO is still asleep.   And then I work online at nights after my LO has gone to bed.

I started working part-time after that year with the 7th period bully.   That situation really put my life into perspective.  I really did want to be home with my son.  I wanted to see him as much as possible.   I wanted to cherish every possible minute.

I should probably mention here that my son was born with some physical disabilities that we have had to correct via surgery.  He had 5 surgeries in his first year of life.   So we have been through a lot and it has definitely made us appreciate every moment of being with him.

Another event that greatly impacted my view of homeschooling occurred in my own classroom.   I had a new student join my honors class that had been homeschooled his entire life.  His mother brought him by to meet me before the school year began.   She was incredibly distraught.  She could not stop crying.  I was truly shocked at how upset she was that he was going to be attending public school.   The reason he was coming to my school was because he needed to take a course in Chinese because they were State Department and being transferred to China.   In order to take the county Chinese course, he needed to take a few other classes at the school, and one of them was my class.  He was a wonderful student!  And he had no problem finding peers to relate to in the class.   He blended right in and I was sad to see him go when they moved to China.   His mother highly recommended a book for me to read called "The Well Trained Mind" by Susan Wise Bauer.  That book totally changed my view of homeschooling.   Like many people, I had previously had very stereotypical negative views of homeschooling and homeschool education.   That book proved most of my fears totally wrong.   It clearly laid out curriculum options and theories of homeschooling.   I was very impressed with this "classical" approach to homeschooling.   I found that there were many curriculum options available, like learning Latin and reading classic books, that I had not thought of before.  The book got me excited!  I wanted to learn more about homeschooling and I wanted to investigate this new way of educating.    I wanted to TEACH this way!  I wished that I had LEARNED this way as a student myself.   I started to DREAM of the possibilities!  

So I started my homeschooling research.   I found that homeschoolers are successful on many levels and at many things.  I found that there were many options for homeschooling styles.  I read MANY theories that totally THRILLED me on many levels!  It was like I was a brand new teacher again!  It was like when I was in college and in that stage where I was super excited all the time about learning and about teaching!   I wanted to know more!   I picked up another great book called "101 Top Picks for Homeschool Curriculum" by Cathy Duffy.  Wow!  The possibilities! Needless to say, I was hooked on the concept of homeschooling my own son.

I also did a lot of research on homeschooling in Virginia via the Internet.   I quickly found VAHomeschoolers which has an amazing amount of information and a great annual conference.   I also started researching co-ops in my area (and WOW there are a lot of co-ops and classes available for homeschoolers in my area).   I found a Classical Conversations group in my area and attended a very informative presentation.  I was very impressed!   So, basically, I found that homeschooling had the ability to adapt curriculum to what my child likes, needs, and wants.   I also found that there were so many options that we would be busy all the time learning!  And that we could take field trips whenever we wanted to do them!  Wow!  What freedom!  And we were constantly learning!  I want to keep that love of learning alive in my LO.   The one-on-one educational setting definitely beats out on the large classroom of students bored out of their minds.   And there is SOOOO much opportunity for socializing with other homeschoolers that the "socialization" question is definitely a non-issue.  If you leave your house, you can find other homeschoolers to meet with and make good friends.  We have already gone to many parkdays and gone to many classes where my LO has made some great friendships.  I have found that we actually have to say "no" to many events because we simply do not have enough time to do everything.   I joined many homeschooling groups by a simple search for "homeschooling" in Yahoo groups and on Babycenter.   It is so helpful to find other people doing the same thing that I am doing.  

Another main reason that we have decided to homeschool our LO is because we want him to have a God-centered education.   I read a book that truly changed my perspective from a typical "secular" view of education to a "godly" view of education.  It is called "The Heart of Homeschooling" by Christopher Klicka.    After reading that book, I definitely knew that I wanted religion and the Bible to be central to my son's educational journey and life.   Obviously, that is not possible in the public school model.  And the religious private school options are expensive and a lot have similar problems like the public schools.   So I started to investigate religious preschool options and finally settled on "Catholic Icing".   I went with one of my good friends from college to a Catholic Homeschool Conference.  She decided to pull her own son from public school and to homeschool him along with his younger siblings.   We both thoroughly enjoyed the conference and came out convinced that God's intention truly is that we educate our own children.  

So, that is where I currently am with our educational journey.  We are homeschooling and we are excited every day to be doing so.   I am still teaching in public school because I do truly love teaching and reaching out to those students.  I figure that if parents choose to send their children to public schools that they should have teachers that are good and engaged like I am.  

Feel free to post comments!  I will try to address all questions and concerns :)

Thanks for reading!


  1. Quoted from my blog-

    "We want our children to feel that learning if part of life and is fun. I remember growing up and my mother would always take opportunities to teach us new things but it never felt like learning. It felt There are many theories for homeschooling and each family will evaluate the best ways for their children to learn. That is the beauty of homeschooling. There is no ONE way for every family, let alone for every child within the same family.

    I know that my kids will not enjoy every subject that we cover in school, but I can make the process of learning it fun and tailored to them. In a class of 30 other kids they would never get that, nor would I expect that from our wonderful but overloaded teachers. But as a family, we can offer that to them."

    This is why we homeschool. My mother was a PS teaching and had almost the exact same thing happen with a student. Her students were only in 3rd grade but it was a very rough school.

  2. Celeste - Thank you for the comment :) I love the quote from your blog. What is your blog address?

  3. Oh how I loved reading your story! Sad to hear about your experience with public school. How scary!! I am a former 4th grade teacher, so I totally understand what you mean by kids get rewarded or more attention at school for being at the top or bottom. There are a lot of things that I believe need to be fixed in the public schools, which is one of my reasons for homeschooling as well. Thank you for sharing your heart!!

  4. Angela - Thanks for reading my blog and commenting :)

  5. I love reading this post about homeschooling. I love the way you explained why you homeschool. I have 2 1/2 twins and we are thinking about homeschooling well I am my husband thinks going to school is very important. I am just doing a lot of research and it's nice to read from somone that actually had someone reservations about homeschooling at first.