Even on Christmas Day, we were homeschooling :) And we even had a cousin participating too :) My LO received many educational gifts this year including many games, puzzles, and books. He also got a Magic School Bus Science Kit about slime, gel, and goop :) So, after all the presents were open and we had eatten dinner, the kiddos decided it was time for school :) Here are some pictures of our experimenting with slime, gel, and goop!
And my husband also shot a short video of our science lesson :)
This is a follow-up from my last posting. I posted my updated blog on a few forums and the question I got back on all of them was "Did my husband support the idea of homeschooling my son?"
My response to the forum question was:
"No, my husband was not on board right away. He knew that I was looking into options but he had very stereotypical misconceptions about homeschooling. He was also very concerned about the possibility of our son not having a diploma and not being able to go to college. In order to disbunk those issues, I gave him many articles to read about successful homeschoolers and the statistics on homeschoolers going to college. I also showed him various program options like Classical Conversations, which has good information on high school options. Also, I explained the dual enrollment options that our local community college offers. I also made sure that he attended the homeschool convention that I went to in March for my state. He attended some of the sessions that were meant for dads and was very impressed. So, it did take some work, but now he is totally on board with homeschooling. I find him now constantly telling anyone who will listen about how great homeschooling is."
Communication is key to a good marriage. My husband and I do discuss everything that is important to us. Honestly, we probably share too much ;) But it works for us. So, like everything else, when I felt that I was frustrated with the current educational options, my husband was there to listen and show support. He is a very compassionate man. He offers great advice and usually thinks of things that I would not have thought of. He is a good sounding board for my thoughts and frustrations. So when I wanted to investigate homeschooling, he was not against it. He encouraged me to read more and to find out more information. He asked me lots of specific questions and set me on the road to researching for answers. So now he is super supportive of homeschooling because he encouraged me to do a lot of research before just jumping into it.
With everything in a relationship, there is compromise involved. I was personally not so concerned with my son having a high school diploma and having "credits" and such. But it was something that mattered to my husband. He wanted to have a "program" that was "structured". My response to that concern was "I can work with that." Honestly, I would probably be more structured anyway even though I definitely find "unschooling" highly appealing. But my personality is definitely more type A and I thrive on structure, and so does my son. So, that is why I decided to look for programs like Classical Conversations. There is a plan for the entire education by using that program. The "plan" aspect makes my husband happy and I am happy when my husband is happy.
I would not jump into something as big as taking on my son's education without the support of my husband. And I am very glad that I have been blessed with a very supportive husband.
This is such a loaded question and really not easy to answer. But I am going to try because it gets asked A LOT :) I participate in multiple homeschooling blogs and the first question that most people ask of homeschoolers is "why?" Homeschooling is not the norm (although it has grown substantially over the last few decades), therefore people are going to question the decision.
So, here we go with my personal response to the "Why?" question :)
First of all, we need a little background information about myself. I am a public school teacher. Yes, you read that correctly. I honestly DO believe in public schools. I believe in what public school COULD be. I also believe that our current model for public school is inherently flawed. I believe that it needs serious revamping. I actually do believe in the concept of standards, but I do not believe how they are implemented nationwide. I believe some schools and some districts are doing things well . . . and others are definitely not. I have written my whole Master's thesis on the problems of public school and on the basic fact that our congressmen do not have a good plan on fixing those problems (and, honestly, not much "will" to actually go through with changes). I could go on for pages about public schools but this blog is about why we have chosen to homeschool. And we have chosen to homeschool our own son.
Where did I get the idea of homeschooling my own son? Honestly, I was frustrated. Very frustrated with my own school, my own school district, and the students that I was teaching. It was one 7th period class that I will never forget. The first day of school I had to call security. The first half of the year was a constant battle between myself and the students I was trying to teach. One student was an obvious bully. He was truly bullying another student in the class every.single.day. It was horrible. I tried and tried to get the bully out of the class. I told the counselors, the parents, the administration. Nothing happened. Until, in October, the student threatened my life by holding up a pair of scissors and telling me to get away from him. Another student literally got out of his chair and told the bully "If you threaten my teacher, you will be dealing with me." I went down to my assistant principal that day, crying, and said "I will NOT return to that class unless you get that student out of my class. I am not negotiating and waiting for the 'system' to do something. I do not care that there is a process. Get him out NOW!" Finally, the administration did something! They removed the student and he finished the course online. But it shouldn't have taken that long. I had been complaining since the first day of school about this student. What if the student HAD attacked me or another student? And the worst part of the situation was that it took away from the other students' ability to learn. I could not effectively teach the rest of the students because I had to deal with behavior issues like that. That is simply not fair. And I am a good teacher. And I live in a good school district. And I work in a good school. My school is rated one of the top in the nation. Yet, there are problems. Big problems.
What I see every day are that the students at the top (i.e. straight As, IB, AP, advanced, honors, etc.) get great resources and praise from the school. And the students at the bottom (i.e. ESOL, SPED, etc.) also get great resources and support from the school. And then there are the children in the middle. The "average" student does not get either. They do not get praise for doing what they are supposed to do. They do not get "extras". They are just there. I find it so sad. I personally try to reach out the most to those students in the "middle". I do not want my son to go to public school and be the "average". BUT I also do not want to put undo pressure on my son to be "the best!" That is also problematic. There are so many students that are pushed into the higher level courses mainly because their parents want them to be there. It's really not healthy. The students are stressed beyond their capabilities and I have seen countless burn-outs (some with very serious psychological damage). It's really not good all the pressure that is put on "average" students to always be "the best."
Going along with that concept, one of the big reasons that I seriously started to look at homeschooling was when my school district decided that all elementary schools would have all-day kindergarten. That means those little 5 and 6 year olds were leaving for school early in the morning and not getting home into way into the afternoon/evening. I just honestly cannot fathom having my son in school that long everyday. The children must come home exhausted and there is definitely not much family time left over. It's great for a working parent because it's basically all day free daycare. But I am also not a fan of the daycare concept. I had a child so that I could be with my child. I want to spend as much time with him as possible. They are only little for so long and I want to cherish all that time with him. And, yes, I do still work. I live in a high cost of living area and we need my paychecks. BUT I now work part-time, in the mornings, when my LO is still asleep. And then I work online at nights after my LO has gone to bed.
I started working part-time after that year with the 7th period bully. That situation really put my life into perspective. I really did want to be home with my son. I wanted to see him as much as possible. I wanted to cherish every possible minute.
I should probably mention here that my son was born with some physical disabilities that we have had to correct via surgery. He had 5 surgeries in his first year of life. So we have been through a lot and it has definitely made us appreciate every moment of being with him.
Another event that greatly impacted my view of homeschooling occurred in my own classroom. I had a new student join my honors class that had been homeschooled his entire life. His mother brought him by to meet me before the school year began. She was incredibly distraught. She could not stop crying. I was truly shocked at how upset she was that he was going to be attending public school. The reason he was coming to my school was because he needed to take a course in Chinese because they were State Department and being transferred to China. In order to take the county Chinese course, he needed to take a few other classes at the school, and one of them was my class. He was a wonderful student! And he had no problem finding peers to relate to in the class. He blended right in and I was sad to see him go when they moved to China. His mother highly recommended a book for me to read called "The Well Trained Mind" by Susan Wise Bauer. That book totally changed my view of homeschooling. Like many people, I had previously had very stereotypical negative views of homeschooling and homeschool education. That book proved most of my fears totally wrong. It clearly laid out curriculum options and theories of homeschooling. I was very impressed with this "classical" approach to homeschooling. I found that there were many curriculum options available, like learning Latin and reading classic books, that I had not thought of before. The book got me excited! I wanted to learn more about homeschooling and I wanted to investigate this new way of educating. I wanted to TEACH this way! I wished that I had LEARNED this way as a student myself. I started to DREAM of the possibilities!
So I started my homeschooling research. I found that homeschoolers are successful on many levels and at many things. I found that there were many options for homeschooling styles. I read MANY theories that totally THRILLED me on many levels! It was like I was a brand new teacher again! It was like when I was in college and in that stage where I was super excited all the time about learning and about teaching! I wanted to know more! I picked up another great book called "101 Top Picks for Homeschool Curriculum" by Cathy Duffy. Wow! The possibilities! Needless to say, I was hooked on the concept of homeschooling my own son.
I also did a lot of research on homeschooling in Virginia via the Internet. I quickly found VAHomeschoolers which has an amazing amount of information and a great annual conference. I also started researching co-ops in my area (and WOW there are a lot of co-ops and classes available for homeschoolers in my area). I found a Classical Conversations group in my area and attended a very informative presentation. I was very impressed! So, basically, I found that homeschooling had the ability to adapt curriculum to what my child likes, needs, and wants. I also found that there were so many options that we would be busy all the time learning! And that we could take field trips whenever we wanted to do them! Wow! What freedom! And we were constantly learning! I want to keep that love of learning alive in my LO. The one-on-one educational setting definitely beats out on the large classroom of students bored out of their minds. And there is SOOOO much opportunity for socializing with other homeschoolers that the "socialization" question is definitely a non-issue. If you leave your house, you can find other homeschoolers to meet with and make good friends. We have already gone to many parkdays and gone to many classes where my LO has made some great friendships. I have found that we actually have to say "no" to many events because we simply do not have enough time to do everything. I joined many homeschooling groups by a simple search for "homeschooling" in Yahoo groups and on Babycenter. It is so helpful to find other people doing the same thing that I am doing.
Another main reason that we have decided to homeschool our LO is because we want him to have a God-centered education. I read a book that truly changed my perspective from a typical "secular" view of education to a "godly" view of education. It is called "The Heart of Homeschooling" by Christopher Klicka. After reading that book, I definitely knew that I wanted religion and the Bible to be central to my son's educational journey and life. Obviously, that is not possible in the public school model. And the religious private school options are expensive and a lot have similar problems like the public schools. So I started to investigate religious preschool options and finally settled on "Catholic Icing". I went with one of my good friends from college to a Catholic Homeschool Conference. She decided to pull her own son from public school and to homeschool him along with his younger siblings. We both thoroughly enjoyed the conference and came out convinced that God's intention truly is that we educate our own children.
So, that is where I currently am with our educational journey. We are homeschooling and we are excited every day to be doing so. I am still teaching in public school because I do truly love teaching and reaching out to those students. I figure that if parents choose to send their children to public schools that they should have teachers that are good and engaged like I am.
Feel free to post comments! I will try to address all questions and concerns :)
It's been over a month since I have posted in my blog! Wow! November was crazy busy. I realized today that I hadn't loaded pictures from my camera in a very long time. Oops! So, here I am. :)
I like to record our lives via pictures - So here is our life in pictures :)
The picture above is of my LO using his dinosaur stamps. He wanted to know where the dinosaurs lived, so I printed a blank map off the Internet of Pangea. The other wooden object on the table is his plaster of paris fossils that we made. Inside the plaster of paris are miniature dinosaurs that need to be dug out with the popsicle stick.
For Thanksgiving Day, we decided to make placemats to decorate the table. We made 4 placemats with different prayers written on them. LO and I decorated them together and then I laminated them. We used watercolors and stickers for the decorating.
Here is a picture of LO learning how to use the Abacus that goes with his RightStart Math curriculum. He figured it out pretty quick :)
Here is a picture of LO doing a PBS Dinosaur Train Lesson. We learned about birds and feathers. In the picture he is coloring a velociraptor. He then glued feathers on the wings.
For Advent, we are doing daily lessons out of a book called "Getting Ready for Christmas." The book has a daily verse, prayer, and activity. In this activity, LO is coloring a sheep to put on our Christmas tree. The sheep symbolizes that we are all sheep of Jesus and that He is our sheperd.
One of the other daily activities for Advent was to make an angel ornament for the Christmas tree. This activity went with a reading on how the angel Gabriel visited Mary to tell her that she would be the mother of the Lord.
Here is a shot of the inside of the book that we are using for Advent. It shows the pages that went with the sheep and angel ornament activities.
This is our nativity this year. It's a set of magnets. The directions said to put it on the fridge but I thought it would be more homeschool friendly if I put it on a cookie sheet, so that we could take it to our dining table to use for lessons. It also is supposed to be used as a countdown for Christmas, but I decided that we would just keep all the pieces out to use as a basic Nativity scene.
For our countdown to Christmas this year, we are doing a scripture reading every day. I wrote the scripture down on pieces of construction paper. I chose to use Luke 1 and 2. And then I laminated the strips so that we can use them year-after-year. :) We are then linking a new piece on our paper chain each day.
Here is another PBS Dinosaur Train Lesson that we did recently. This one turned out super-cute! :) It is a dragonfly :) We used popsicle sticks, pipe cleaners, glue, markers, glitter, construction paper, and googly eyes to make this :) So much fun!
LO was quite proud of the finished dragonfly project :)
Another Advent activity was to make a star ornament for the Christmas tree. The authors of the book seem to really like ornaments ;) LO cut this out all by himself :) I drew the star and he cut it out.
And here is a picture of the wall of our dining room with LO's "letter of the week" activities from his Catholic Icing Preschool Curriculum. We also have our daily prayers on the wall :)
And that is a collage of our homeschooling pictures for about a month's length of time! :) Hope you enjoyed it!